Incurable Cancer

Hello Mollie,

I’m so sorry your going through this and no amount words can say that. Its so hard when someone tells you how long your Dad has and I think no matter how long it is it’s never long enough an especially with the current situation but we are all here for you day or night. I’m never good at writing messages or notes. I was the same when I joined this group a few months ago but I decided to write something and everyone has been lovely.  

Thank you for your response I really appreciate it. It’s just so crazy especially with this pandemic. I feel too young to be losing my dad I’m only 18 and he should have so many more years with me. 

I hope you’re coping okay too! Happy to talk

You will be feeling so many emotions right now and wondering why him?!!! And why does it have to happen to me?!!! And your entitled to think like that as I thought the same and still do. 

My Dad got diagnoses last August with cancer in both his kidneys and it’s spread to both his lungs and been given 12/18months, I know it’s nothing to compared to your Dad but know you have all your friends and family who are there for you even when you feel like your alone.

Maybe just a thought as I do the same to my dad, write him a letter so he can write back and it’s something to have forever and look back on.
Some people might not feel comfortable with this but I speak to a councillor as my Dad and other family members suggested it as I wasn’t/still not at times coping with it and you get it for free through some organisations. I just feel I can let it all out and they won’t judge me and I feel so much better for it.

Thank you for writing back and please know you can message anytime.

Michelle xxx

I’m so sorry to hear about your dad it must be so hard. Although I’ve got a shorter amount of time with him we’re both experiencing the same emotions, people say losing a parent is the hardest loss.... even though he hasn’t gone the pain and upset knowing what will happen is so emotionally draining already.

I love the idea about letter writing I might give that a go. I was seeing a therapist for anxiety before lockdown but they haven’t got in contact with me since beginning of March. People say I’m coping well and I’m strong but you’ll understand when I say I don’t feel strong. The hospice have offered me counselling which I’m hoping to start this week.... hopefully that’ll help me

Thank you for responding

Mollie