Dad wanting to die how/ can I help him cope?

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My dad has kidney cancer diagnosed only about a year ago but he had a major setback end of last year with a blocked bowel and very nearly lost him. I think it took so much out of him that the cancer has gone wild as he's gone downhill so quickly he's on the last prolonging treatment they can give him but he is struggling with everything now and is so confused. Last night after a few confused situations he actually said why can't I just die how do I help him cope and get through it asaas hesbehe's he rock of the family and in charge and now he's pretty much 100% reliant on others it must be so difficult for him and I am now more worried about his mental status than his physical one

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    FormerMember in reply to Thehighlander

    Thank you so much was a bit emotional when I posted so am very grateful

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    Hi cjc01

    I'm so sorry you and your dad are going through this. I lost my dad early in May due to leukemia but I remember too how he had to have more and more things done for him. It is very sad to see. Friends who had lost their parents told me just to be there for my dad. To talk to him about whatever he wanted to talk about and to make sure he knew i loved him and appreciated all he had done for me over the years. Sadly due to Covid I couldn't see him much before he died but I made sure when I did that we had good chats and even a few chuckles. Sorry not to be able to help more. Love and hugs

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thank you and so sorry about your Dad. I lost a very good friend to leukemia a couple of years ago and the advice is always solid you can't do much apart from be there and make the time as good as it can be. That's my intention and sadly what will be will be. it's heartbreaking to hear my dad say he wants to die and a massive part of survival is mental attitude (in my opinion) so I want to do whatever I can to help him with that. I cant do anything about the physical! Thank you again