My Mum has been diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer and is under going chemo at the moment. I’m 19 and live with my mum and dad who are struggling during this time and I feel for their sake that I have to remain calm and collected in front of them but I am so terrified of what the future hold for my family and can’t seem to hold myself together once I start to think about loosing my mum. My entire family has taken the news quite badly and I feel like I’m having to be the shoulder to cry on for all of them while still keeping myself together in front of them so really have came on here just as a private sort of vent I suppose to try and voice my thoughts without worrying my family further.
Morning
So sorry to see you needing to join us here and reading about you mum and dad :-/
First off be very proud of the help and support you are giving to them and seeking us out for some support for yourself at a tough time. Feel free to vent here, even typing out the cancer angst can be very cathartic and is far better than bottling all those emotions up.
You don't mention where your mum's breast mets are - some areas respond better to treatment than others, hopefully your mum's can be kept stable for quite some time.
How is mum coping with her chemo regime ? If you, or she has any questions there is a very active regular chemotherapy discussion in the Main Breast Group (link) you could check out and post messages / questions to. Look out for the June Chemo Club at the top of the page link. There is also a lengthy Positive Secondary Breast Cancer Stories thread in the Secondary Breast Group.
You are welcome to join either or both of these groups as well if you think they may be of some benefit to you all.
I'm assuming that as your mum is having chemo her mets are recently diagnosed, sorry if this isn't the case but please don't feel you have to shoulder all this yourself. Know it is tough getting friends or relatives to help safely in the current Covid situation but hopefully you can get some support and advice here from other members going through similar scenarios. If you are helping in a caring role there is also a Carers Group which could be useful if you need any help with caring issues.
If you could get back with a little more info regarding where her mets are and the chemo drugs she is having we can give you a few more pointers.
You are doing great, everyone here has the odd meltdown moment - it's like an emotional pressure valve so don't beat yourself up about it 
Hugs, G n' J
Hello
Thanks for sharing your experience, it has prompted me to write in here for the first time.
I think your story resonates with many of us; trying to stay strong and calm whilst dealing with your own internal turmoil and fears. I believe you are definitely helping and supporting your mum by showing a brave face but it is perfectly ok to share your worries with a trusted family member or a close friend. Trying to take each day as it comes, many people respond very well to treatment and are able to carry on with their lives for many years to come.
My sister was recently diagonse with metastatic breast cancer, she's just stared chemo and her body is not coping very well. I chat and joke with her and we openly talk about what she is going through and how she is feeling. I feel this is how I can support her and when I feel overwhelm, I reach out to my husband or one of my close friends to let them know how I am feeling myself. Meditation and listening to calming audios seem to help.
Sending you my best wishes and please vent away 
