Hi
My dad was told he has terminal gullet cancer on Christmas eve 2019.
He has had 2 stents put in as the 1st one wasn't quite right. He was told that he wouldn't survive chemo as he is 84.
Since then the cancer has spread to his arm, spine, breast bone and hip. The past few weeks he has been in and out of hospital several times.
He said to night that he doesn't think he can go on as he constantly has a dry mouth and lips and has trouble swallowing. Even short conversations are becoming a struggle for him.
I just don't know what I can say to him to help him. I always make sure that he knows I am here if he needs anything but I am just feeling lost right now as I hate seeing him suffer.
Hi,
I can’t offer any advice, but I just wanted to say I’m sorry for what you are going through. My mum was told on Monday that she has cancer which is incurable, and that it’s too advanced to treat with chemotherapy. I am also struggling with how to support her, barely manage to stop crying when I talk to her. I know nothing I say can make it better, but I don’t want her to feel like she has to be brave for me. I am hoping to find some guidance from the experiences in the forum. I hope you find some support and comfort in them too.
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