I'm a 44 Yr old male and my dad diagnosed with terminal lung cancer in January. The change in him is so bad. His skin is very flaky. His appearance has changed. I've been close with my dad and reaching a point were I think I'm losing my mind. I'm getting anxiety when I go around to see him and don't know what to say to him anymore. I don't want to say anything to my mother or sister as I don't want to upset them further. Is this part of grief? Are there others feeling like this?
If I could take the Cancer off my dad and have it myself I would in a heartbeat.
If these are normal feelings for a family member of cancer patient then I can learn to cope with them. Just confused with everything.
Mikeal
we all go through these feelings, I have learnt that the person with the cancer just needs you to treat them the same as you did before, enjoy the time you have together. Make memories ,your mum and sister are probably feeling the same talk to them. Talking really helps.
daisy rose
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