Hello everybody, I hope you are well.
I joined today because my father has been diagnosed with pancreatic and liver cancer. He started chemotherapy on Wednesday. He has been isolating for 5 weeks now and had chemotherapy postponed because he had a cold. The day after his first session his consultant diagnosed DVT in his legs which he is now medicated for. My reason for posting is because I feel an overwhelming feeling of being totally useless for him. My father lives on his own and has even asked me to take care of his dog for the time being. I ring regularly but feel that due to the current pandemic I cannot support my father how I want to or how he deserves. How is everybody coping with not being able to see a loved one during these times?
Hi
I feel utterly useless too! I am not sure I even have any words that will help you other than your hands are tied right now due to situation and you are doing the best you can in the most awful of times. I say that as that's what everyone tells me I still feel like rubbish but somewhere inside I do know it's true. Do what you can and know it's the best. I am sure your dad would think so. Be sure to take care of yourself also.
Thank you for your words, I’m sorry you are feeling the same way. These are cruel times and it feels totally unfair that we aren’t able to support those we love and care for. You are right, there is only so much we can do at these times
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