Hi everyone, this is my first post and I'm looking for some advice please! My daughter is caring for a family member in his home. He is in his 80s and had an operation to remove a tumour in his colon 2.5 weeks ago. The cancer has spread to his liver. He doesn't have a stoma. He was previously in good health, fit and physically and mentally active. With the quarrantine in force, she's feeling isolated, inexperienced and lacking in info! She's working from home while looking after him, and I'm doing my best to support her from a distance with moral support and (hopefully) useful information.
She'd like to have some idea of the recovery process - what to expect. I think they are both feeling a bit demoralised as he is still very weak and tired, and also a bit mentally fuddled. Is taking codeine and paracetamol for the pain. She's apart from her partner and 1-year old child, who live in another part of the UK, and was hoping to get home by Friday! She's just realising that this may not be possible. Social services are visiting this afternoon to discuss home care, which will probably be two visits a day, morning and evening.
Any advice would be very welcome! Then I can pass it on to her when we next talk. Thanks in advance!
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to hear that a family member has been diagnosed with a tumour in his colon and that it has spread to his liver.
He is very lucky that you have such a caring daughter who wants to look after him.
Could I recommend that you think about joining and posting your message in the bowel cancer and secondary liver cancer groups as there should be people in those groups with the experiences you are looking for.
To join either or both of these groups just click on the links I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the pages that open. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you have a minute it would be useful if could pop something about your family member's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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