Hi, my dad has terminal bowel cancer that has spread to his liver and 3 more tumours in his bowel and now bladder. The bowel and bladder are now joined together and causing a lot of problems which are now very complicated. Dad is in a lot of pain which they are finding difficult to balance and now on a lot of oral morphine and slow release morphine, constant antibiotics to fight ecoli, it’s so had to see him in this way and wonder if anyone else has had this experience. I wondered how much longer dad can fight. It’s so hard seeing him in this pain. He doesn’t want to know how long he has left. I think I would fond it easier
Hi ,
So sorry to hear about your dad and the pain he is going through, my dad had seizures rather than cancer but towards the end he was very challenging but it still really hurt when he died.
A prognosis is very difficult because it can only really be done on averages and who is the average? It might seem easier to "know" but as your dad does not want to know it could be tricky not to let the information slip.
What some people find is that they enter a period of "pre-grief" whether for the fear of what is coming or for the time together that people feel has been robed from them.
You might find some of the information under "nearing death" in the document here helpful. It is important too to remember to be kind to yourself at this time.
<<hugs>>
Steve
