I really need to talk with someone outside my family

Hi Pocketninja,

I'm so sorry that this is happening to your dad and your family. I have no real words of wisdom for you but if you need to talk then I will listen. As will everyone else on here.Say as much as as little as you want.

Thinking of you and your family x

Dear Pocketninja, that is very hard news. You can always talk here. Yes, it's difficult. Try to find as much support for yourself as you can, I don't know how old you are or what you have to deal with on a daily basis. I had breast cancer last year and my dad had prostate cancer which had mestasized too. What you need to do is take really good care of yourself, so that you can cope better. I don't think anyone ever really "copes" to be honest - but there are degrees of coping and it's important to find ways to stay afloat emotionally at least some of the time rather than submerged in awful feelings always. Shock and disbelief take quite a long time to settle down so be gentle with yourself. Does that make sense? If you can find some free time to get some talking time with the Macmillan helpline that might also help. They have helped me today! x Lindsay