Hi everyone.
I really deliberated with myself as to whether or not to come on here but I'm hoping it will bring me some relief.
My dad (59)has just been diagnosed with primary small bowel cancer with liver and omental mets. He had previously had chemo for the bowel cancer and responded well, his last chemo was over a year ago.
1 week ago he suddenly started vomiting and has a painful and distended abdomen. During investigation, This was when we received the above devastating diagnosis.
I am so angry that return or his original disease didn't seem to be acknowledged until it had spread this far. My dad's a strong, fit and young looking man for his age. He's like a dad to my 4yo daughter and I cannot handle this diagnosis.
I can't sleep, I can't think, I suffer with chronic depression and all I can think about is dying because the thought of him suffering and leaving us is too much to bear.
Hi and a warm welcome to the Community. I noticed your post was unanswered and popped over from Carers. I'm sorry to hear about your dad. It's much harder when someone suffers with depression, I empathise. Losing a parent when you're young is terribly painful, but you have a daughter who relies on you and she will need your strength. Please contact your GP and ask for an appointment, it's important for the GP to know how you are feeling so that support can be put in place for you before you become too distressed. Do call the helpline too, 0808 808 0000 if you need to chat, it's manned by experts and they are very understanding.
Love and hugs,
LoobyLou
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