Slightly controversial

Do you have a nurse specialist as well as consultant? If so speaking to them about how you feel could really help. It may be other people have had similar concerns. 

Im a nurse myself, and know that different consultants have different ways, and that sometimes blunt can appear unempathetic. How does your husband find him? Have you discussed your concerns with him? 

We don't have a nurse specialist as well.  We have a Macmillan nurse who I have spoken to on a couple of occasions about this  issue and he is understanding of the situation.  Hubby sees the issue and at times gets frustrated, but he tends to just let it wash over him and just concentrates on what is being said about treatment.  I worry that my negativity towards the doctor is not good for him.

I have a friendship with someone is recovering from treatment for a different cancer, and she is and always has been given all information.

If you feel you are lacking in information then you have every right to ask the questions you want, even say to him, I need to explain that to me again/ further. If this doesn’t help I would really have another chat with your husbands Macmillan nurse and maybe even see if they can attend with you 

I do hope you manage to get some resolution to this. We have been very lucky that both consultants my mom has seen have gone thoroughly through everything, different styles it has to be said, but both have given all he information (good and bad) we have required and we have asked so many questions too. 

Thank you, the Macmillan nurse is quite frequently sitting in on appointments anyway but I might just check.  I once asked about a particular item that was mentioned in a letter to the GP which we knew nothing about, to be greeted with " I wish I recorded all my consultations so they can be replayed" !  

Wishing you all the best.