Hi there,
I’m new to this so bear with me, and I’m going to try and make this as short winded as possible.
My boyfriend was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer in February 2018. He was told he was in remission in November 2018. I didn’t meet him until February 2019 and he is almost a year in remission, and with a recent visit to his specialist who was very happy with how he was, im struggling to now understand any side effects or fatigue if there is any still.
I’m a Nanny. I work super long days 6 days a week. I have attempted to speak to my boyfriend about getting back to work. Before his diagnosis he was a chef. He was told this was his reasoning for his oesophageal cancer and he’d just been really unlucky. He’s not a big drinker and he’s never smoked. He can’t go back into what was his career, so I understand at the age of 33 finding a new career will be terrifying. His doctor is happy to continuously prolong his sick note therefore giving him no motivation to start the career search, which is frustrating, but I don’t want to seem unfair.
Long and short of it is I just really need some advice to help me understand how to help him please. I’m really struggling and I don’t want him being happy with me to shadow what’s going on in his head.
Thank you in advance
Laura
Hi and welcome to the community though sorry to hear about your boyfriend.
It might help you both to look at our pages on life after cancer treatment. Of course if his doctor keep signing sick notes it is hard to question that but is it worth remembering that good work is good for your health too.
<<hugs>>
Steve
