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Hi

Sorry to see you joining us here, but pleased to read your daughter is free of disease post treatment.

It is always tough seeing a loved one get diagnosed and undergo invasive treatment (especially when that loved one is one of your children) What exactly were the issues of her review when you say horrendous ?

Is it you are scared for her future prognosis and recurrence ?

Hugs, G n' J

Hi thankyou for replying.....

she went for her annual check up, they said that the mammogram came back abnormal. ( she had a mastectomy last year), so the remaining breast had a cyst already there, they said it had significantly changed.

She had the 1st biopsy which was inconclusive, the 2nd biopsy came back as cancer cells, then 9 days before her wedding (which I planned as a distraction from the surgery last year) she had to have surgery. They removed 2 lumps which put a shadow over the wedding waiting for the results. Eventually last week the results were benign - which is of course a huge relief , but it has completely floored me.

I am signed off work, having panic attacks and generally feel awful.

I should be happy, there are many people in a much worse situation but it has affected me far worse than last year and I don't know why !!

No wonder you were all floored by all this

You had hardly got over the initial shock, so it is understandable this would be adding to that stress and put a dampener on everything spoiling what should have been a wonderful occasion.

Have you been to see your GP and explain how all this has left you feeling ? Maybe a short course of low dosage tablets can help you until the panic attacks subside and you get to feel more like the old you.

These feelings are totally normal and will pass in time, in some respects it is worse for loved ones and carers because everything seems so out of control and it all makes you feel so helpless.

How is your daughter now, trying to settle into married life hopefully ?

Hope chatting about this is of some help, take care of yourself, you have both been through a lot.

G n' J

Thankyou so much for your kind words...……. yes I am currently taking medication.

My daughter is currently on honeymoon - so yes she is doing ok.

You are completely right, helpless is the overwhelming feeling. I would like to get back to the old me which is normally the loud/silly one.

I should be celebrating the good news...……. one day at a time.

You will get there it is all such a continuous whirlwind of emotions it takes quite some getting over.

We liken it to having a cancer rock dropped in the lake and you have to wait until ALL the ripples have subsided to get some sort of serenity back.

Hopefully you will get some more replies - If you want to chat or have any questions don't hesitate in starting a new discussion.

We are all either patients, carers or loved ones here and 'know how it is'

Hugs, G n' J

Hi Rubyroo12,

What a rollercoaster of emotions you've been thru lately!

I od hope the results wait didn't spoil your daughter's  wedding too much for all concerned.

At least she is having her honeymoon and will probably come back in a completely different frame of mind.

Meanwhile you are still fretting, as we mums do.

As Dreamthief says, it's a case of waiting till ALL the ripples have subsided.I'm glad you're on some sort of meds pro tem- they will help u get your equilibrium back.

Every little helps!!

Thankyou buttercup01,

I will take things one day at a time, she is coping better than I am - I'm totally in awe of her !

Yes all kind words of wisdom do help, it feels very isolating when your friends/relatives (as much as they try) haven't had the same experiences.

Oh serenity will be divine when it arrives, and I know it will …...

Bless you - you have really helped.