both parents diagnosed within 8 months of each other.....

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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So, 2019 has been a fairly 'rubbish' year to put it mildly. Dad diagnosed with bowel cancer 2 weeks before xmas 2018 and mum diagnosed with breast cancer 6 weeks ago.

Currently feel like a victim of a universal practical joke . . . and the punch line doesn't feel very funny!!!

As my parents are divorced it adds an extra level of difficulty to the situation and as oldest child the logistics of mum's care and treatment regime naturally fall on me.

Now that is not a burden and I am not complaining as that's what families are for, but starting to wish we had VIP parking at the hospital!!

plus my jaw is starting to ache from what is probably a shed load of angry tears that oddly enough have not appeared even though I am usually the most emotional of people!

Not really after any answers, just people who understand as none of my friends have (thankfully) had to go through this yet

xxx

Carolyn28 over 5 years ago

Carolyn

xxx

real life success stories to remind you that people do survive breast cancer

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/breast-cancer/f/38/t/115457

Dr Peter Harvey

https://www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf

Kerra over 5 years ago

Hi Voodoo Dolly.

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. It really does suck!

My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer in November 2017. In the December my grandfather (mum's dad) was admitted to hospital due to a bad fall. In January my dad was quite unwell and on the same day that my grandfather passed, I had to rush my dad to hospital in agony. The next day we were told he had a mass on his pancreas and was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer.

I completely understand the feeling that someone was playing a very unfunny joke and that surely nothing more could be thrown at us.

We are a tight family and I am pleased to say that my mum has now been given the all clear following some pretty gruelling treatment. She has been amazing - fighting her fight as well as caring for my dad (and not really having a proper chance to grieve for her own father!).

We thought dad had only a couple of months left, but after lots of chemo, he is still here almost 18 months from diagnosis. All things considered, we are very lucky to still have both mum and dad. we know the tough times are coming still, but we make the most of every day.

No one else can truly understand how it feels, but I do find talking about it helps.

I wish your parents the best of luck with any treatment they may be having and send you a big virtual hug.

Kerry

Kerry

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