Hi my dad has just recently been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer that has spread to his pelvic bones. He had prostrate and bladder cancer some years ago but was in remission after treatment. He has been in hospital since diagnosis to manage pain and tests etc. He is starting radiotherapy tomorrow. He is keeping a brave face mostly but I’m devastated. I have spoken to Macmillan nurses drs as I find getting more information seems to help me cope and possibly prepare for what I feel will be a fairly rapid deterioration as he’s been diagnosed so late on. Hes in a lot of morphine and sometimes he’s bright but some days he’s not himself.. grumpy loss of appetite and extreme fatigue. My mum is doing her best when I’m at work and not around to help but with our relationship being up and down over the years due to her mental health issues she is now accusing me of interfering has started saying spiteful things. I understand she’s grieving too but it makes me feel like I cannot give my dad the care I am able to give. I’m a carer by occupation and over the last few months before diagnosis I have looked after my dad offering him the support and empathy my mum does not always give. I don’t really know what to do as I don’t want to take away the support that my dad has always voiced he’s grateful for and the time we spend together to be lessened. However I know my mum... and I think it will lead to more spiteful remarks and anger towards me for whatever reason
