Living with boyfriend who has had adrenal cancer

Hi and welcome to the community. Sorry to hear about your boyfriend and the effect this treatment is having on you both. Your comments on people asking about him but not you are very common, hear we understand this. Exercise is a great way of relieving stress as you have found.

You talk about children and then say about no sex, this is perhaps something we have less information on, perhaps if it is just the tiredness then some different medication might help to make things easier.

I did a living with less stress course with Maggies that really helped me, 

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thank you Steve that does make me feel less lonely in all of this. I think sometimes that's all I want; someone who understands. 

I will have a look at that course.

Thank you.

Summer x

Hi Summer2019 , I do feel your pain as my husband was diagnosed with Hodkin's Lymphoma not so long ago and he is only in his 30's and since then it's been really difficult to keep our lives normal. He hasn't started his treatment yet but already he experiences mood swings and he is getting stroppy with me a lot. I try to help out and support every way I can but it is challenging sometimes especially on a bad day. I sometimes feel like I'm not allowed to have a bad day and then I feel guilty about having one. I think there are stages to all this and I know that deep down people who we support are very grateful for all support they are getting. What i do on a bad day is try to find something enjoyable to do like gardening or, watching a good movie or finding a peaceful moment to read a book. sometimes it is good to have a little time to yourself as well to get perspective and to reason with your feelings. But I think what is the most important thing to remember is that you are allowed to feel down and to feel negative and to be having bad days, our emotions have to go out somewhere. You just have to make sure that that state of your mind doesn't stay with you for longer than it's necessary :) we are stronger than we think and that strength is coming form within :)

Hi,

Sorry to hear about your husband. That was s very sad news, but hopefully the treatment will be effective. I know exactly what you mean about bad days and that we cannot ever have them. Time out for yourself is important and as a couple. We always try and have deep conversations which helps. 

My partner gets moody at times .I overcome this by going for a run or ringing a friend. Sometimes I just watch a girly flick and stroke my cat. 

Music helps too. Got a few mini breaks and a concert which will help. Been to see mates this Easter which was great, as we went for walks on the beach and he had time with his best friend.

Reassuring to know someone is experiencing something similar to me.

Summer X