Husband has metastatic rectal cancer

Hi there

Sorry to hear about your husband. I remember the feeling of shock when my husband was first diagnosed over 3 years ago. He's had 3 years of chemo which he tolerated with very few side effects, and during this time the tumour in his bowel meant he had to have a stoma, During those years he was having chemo he was very active and positive and the nurses at the Royal Bournemouth Hospital and his oncology consultant were wonderful support.

He then had 5 sessions of radiotherapy which knocked him for six, but now he's over that but the chemo/radiotherapy has stopped working and he's under the MacMillan service. He's still fairly active and fairly positive but obviously not as well, and has been given 6 months.I love him so much.

I hope this helps give you a bit of hope, and that when the shock has worn off you will both find peace of mind and all the help and support you need. Remember they are bringing out new meds all the time, and some people are eligible for trials. I wish your family love, best wishes and a big family hug. Love, Stella 

Hi there - I am sorry I posted a reply to you, but it came out further down the line (pen name Stella) Good luck to you and hope you get the help and support you need.

Sorry to be blunt, but if it's terminal you are eligible for a non means tested allowance. The social worker at the hospital, or your consultant should be able to start the ball rolling, and it's a great help. Love, Stella x