Coping

Hi I am sorry to hear of your sad news, unfortunately I know exactly how you are feeling! My dad has gall bladder cancer which has spread and we were told on Monday that the chemo didn't work so there is no more treatment. My father has given up, he doesn't eat much and doesn't want to do or go anywhere, he says what's the point, I'm dying anyway! I am so heartbroken that I to feel so helpless and struggling to cope! I find having a good cry and talking to some of my friends who have been through the same thing really helps. In the meantime I spend as much time as I can with my dad, there isnt much else I can do except be there for him if he needs me. If you need to rant or feel like you need to talk yo someone, feel free to talk to me. Take care xx

I don’t even really know what to say, I am trawling these forums trying to find answers that don’t exist. My dads oesophagus cancer has spread to his liver and is aggressive with no chemo option and much like you I have many things going on an at once. His first grandchild is due in 6 weeks so my emotions are all over the place and I’m finding it very difficult to think about myself and the baby when my dad is my number one priority. 

It is so hard to see them lose their spark and positivity and become opposite to the strong dads we know. 

I have seen a counsellor, it helps put your thoughts in order, but other than that I don’t know how to cope either. I find that crying and emptying the tank gives me a release for a while, but as you will know it just all comes flooding back. 

I feel the only slight comfort I get is reading others posts and knowing I am not alone, there are so many of us going through these horrific times xxx 

I came across your thread and just wanted to see how you are doing? How’s your dad ? I hope he met your child and that he / she has given him some strength x