Having a bad day

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Jenny,

May I date ask how your Mum knew it tasted like earwax?? Lol

Sue x

Nice gifts from your dogs for you

At my place for the night my sis taken over. I have cheesecake!

(No cat).

Jx

Just back from my mum's.  She bit my head off earlier.  She never does that to me.  Made me really sad.

Sorry Elenium.  Mum has done similar. 

To me and much more so to Dad.

She can't remember it all but did say "I can't be a nice polite person when it hurts and sometimes I'm too tired for whole sentences.   Sometimes I can just get out one word"

Hug

Jx

Thanks Jenny.  It just made me realise how bad she feels. I mean I do know but it just hit me hard. 

Hiya Elenium. 

I know how it feels to go through a bad day - I seem to be having my fair share lately. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. Xx 

Thank you Love31.  I completely understand why you are having bad days and am here if you need to rant.

Aaargh! Families!  I've completely had enough! Mum's just told me that my sister went off food shopping yesterday and left her for two hours!  My poor mum.  She said it was really horrible being on her own.  She felt really down.  I don't get it.  I go and do mine and mum's food shopping before I go round to hers.  I leave home  really early to get it all done so I can be at hers by 9am.  My sister's not working so could go any other day???  Mum asked me to speak to the others about it all.  I didn't tell her I've tried and they're ignoring me.  I told her that I think she needs to have an honest conversation with them about the pain (I think she covers it up a bit in front of them) and how down she feels and that she looks forward to them coming round.  Do they not realise that mum sits there thinking about the fact that she's not got much longer to live and there's nothing anyone can do.  She doesn't expect us to be there 24 hours a day, although I know she would like that, but surely they can come for a whole day without going and leaving her on her own. Is it me?  Am I expecting too much of people?  This is their mum.  She brought us up on her own after dad died when we were very young and she did everything for us.  She did loads of cleaning jobs to make ends meet and was still there for us when we got home from school every day.  She's done so much for us and they can't even do this for her.  Angry doesn't even come close to how I'm feeling at the moment.

I know that feeling Elenium...I really do.  Until recently a similar scenario at ours.  Things have improved lately although still me 90% of time. Does your sister have a temper? Maybe your Mum doesn't want to upset her. 

Maybe the time has come to be angry at your sister.  Hateful though that is.  

Hug.

Jx

No, my sister doesn't have a temper but I think my mum just doesn't want to talk about it, which is understandable. I'm not good at confrontation with my family and as much as they make me angry I don't want to have an out and out row with them.  Apart from one of my sisters, my siblings aren't as close to mum as I am.  Me and mum have always spent a lot of time together and my children are very close to her so I know that this is affecting me much more than them. I get the feeling that they think I'm over reacting and being melodramatic when I say that my world is falling apart.