Having a bad day

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Hi Elenium,

It's really good you're letting it out- and sometimes this is the best place to let it out! I used to a lot myself and find it quite thereputic! And good on you for just sitting on the sofa and watching tele- sometimes we just need that! In terms of your daughter I'm 20 so being a similar age I can relate to her in the fact that maybe yeah she's worried and stressed about whats happening with your mum but, maybe you could both sit down spend some time together and just calmly explain how you need the help and support aswell? I'm not a mother but, I know when mum was ill she would explain to me that she needed me to help and before I knew it it was second nature to just do bits around the house. In terms of your husband maybe he doesn't know how to deal and react and cope with it. I can't vouch for all men obviously but the Ones I know that have been in similar with this haven't been able to talk and deal and things with it so they use jokes or other things to cope- I would suggest try and sit down with them and talk whether it's separately or all together but, don't bottle yourself up!!

Hope things get better soon

X

I'm so sorry you're having a bad day. I have so so but it's nice that we have platforms like this to talk with other people in our situation. I hope your day gets better!

Struggling a bit today.  On my way to work and it's all feeling a bit too much for me.  I've deliberately not told anyone at my new job about mum but now I'm wondering if I should at least tell my boss.  Not that I want him to make allowances but just so he know's why I'm down sometimes.  Missing her a lot this morning.

X

Hello,

I would mention it certainly, Elenium, you have/need to be fair and gentle to yourself.

Xx

I think I'm going to have to.  Not too great yesterday.  Made a huge effort and went out with friends last night but it was all too much for me.  When I got home I had a mini meltdown as I felt completely overwhelmed.  I'm going out tonight too and I really can't face it but it's to support my best friend and she's really been there for me through all of this.  I know she would understand but I don't feel I can let her down. Hopefully, I'll get through it OK.  

My boss's mum had a stroke on yesterday so he's up the hospital with her.  It must be bad as his brother is coming over from America.  I really feel for him and that just made it harder for me as I kept thinking of him and his family and what they must be going through.

I just need to get through today.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Hugs to all.

X

We will get through today like we do every day. Wether it's with our head held high or by the skin of our teeth, we make it!

On reflection. Mum died and she had the chance to fight her battle, we said how much we loved each other. She is gone and I will never be 'normal' again. But, the Grenfell fire, thankyou that my mum wasnt in there. The cruel, horrific, senseless loss is beyond comprehension. Dare i say i am thankful mum left this earth very very loved. Horrific yes, devastating yes. If she were alive now she would march to Grenfell and insist the army be bought in to organise the fantastic efforts of the folk in the aftermath. How dare prisoners have a bed and a roof and food cooked for them. Here here mum, i will pick up the mantle of what has to happen. ffs where are the army, get them into Kensington. give the grieving privacy. I love you mum, so very very much. Forever and always. You are with me, i am part of you, your darling loving daughter. Xxx

Hello Elenium,

Keep going. We have to. I know it's hard. It always was one day at a time. 

My next door neighbour died at home on Thursday, lung cancer. I helped her husband dress her, brought back so so many memories, so not good at the mo.

Also, remember the battles to get care and help , am doing the same again for my mil. It's unbelievable still, again I say how do those who are ill, elderly, cope. Simply they don't. I know it's the system not the people involved in the process but it is so hard in an already hard time.

Keep going seems to be my mantra ....

Such sad times in this country as well.

Hope we all have a better day today

Xxxx

Hi all,

Sorry not posted for a bit.  Struggling at the moment.  The sale of mum's house is going through and I think it's affecting me more than I realise. Having days where I'm missing mum so badly.  My husband tried to tell me what I need to do to move forward.  I couldn't speak to him.  He doesn't understand. Until you've been through it yourself you can't understand.  I know that everyone is probably fed up with me and I do try not to show it but sometimes it's just too hard.  I just have this anger there all the time.  Most of the time I can keep a lid on it but then something happens and I just explode.  It's just crap.

Bobles, how are you doing? It must have been awful helping your neighbour with his wife.  I think you are marvellous to do that.  I certainly couldn't have.  What's happening with your MIL?

Yantibee, how are you and the boys?  I hope you're ok.

Sue?  What's going on with you?

Off to work now, after a crappy night's sleep, to a hot office where everyone has nicked all the fans.  Well I'm in early today so I'll be off stealing one for myself...

Hugs to all.

X