Having a bad day

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Sorry but I'm having a bad day and I just need to let it out. I woke up feeling like I've had no sleep and really down. Mum's been bad this week - a lot of pain and, I think, sliding into depression - so I'm in overdrive on worrying about her. My sister is with her today so I don't need to go round to see mum although I probably will drop round later. I thought I would throw myself into cleaning the house so make myself busy and then I'd start to feel better. My fatal mistake was asking my 18 year old daughter to help. She had a major strop. I tried to keep calm as I realise that she is worrying about my mum too but it was hard. I tried to talk to her but she just got worse and worse so I gave up. Then my husband made sarcastic comments about it all - again he is worrying and his mum is also not well - so I am still trying to keep a lid on it. But I feel even worse now. I'm now sitting on the sofa in my pyjama's watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy without the will to do anything else. I just keep crying and feel so very very sad.

FormerMember over 7 years ago in reply to FormerMember

I meant 'feeling sad' not 'bear'!! My brain these days! It's a wonder I can get dressed in the morning!

FormerMember over 7 years ago in reply to FormerMember

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FormerMember over 7 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Jenny,

I immediately thought of you all, when I heard about this atrocity. I know you were there just a week ago. I am so sorry, I suspect you feel awful. Thank God you weren't tho'.

Take care, Anneteresa

FormerMember over 7 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Hello Sue,

It does not sound pitiful, to those who have experienced similar. I think that those who go through a loss of a loved one do experience PTSD. Especially if you have to deal with the aftermath. I am still dealing with the death of my Mum, 11 years ago. I cared for her, with my Dad, but he made me sort all her stuff, and get rid of it, even before she died. That was hard.

Take care, Anneteresa

FormerMember over 7 years ago in reply to Elenium

I can so relate to that, attending family ocassions on my own, can be difficult.

FormerMember over 7 years ago in reply to Elenium

Thank you for your kind words. Have appointment at the Christie but not till 20th June!! Maybe it's not as bad as I think.... or maybe I'm kidding myself

FormerMember over 7 years ago in reply to FormerMember

I now know it's HCC cancer with involvement of portal vein. I just want to know what's going to happen. How do they know it's cancer and not benign? I think I have PTSD from witnessing mum die. I really can't face seeing this again with dad. Just referred me and the kids to beechwood to get counselling and support. We have just booked a week in Newquay - dad, me , husband , kids, 2 uncles and one cousin oh and the dog lol. Trying to make some memories x

FormerMember over 7 years ago in reply to FormerMember

I am so sorry to hear this, but great that you are making the best of this . Making memories is so important.

Elenium over 7 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Got a hospital appointment tomorrow - nothing serious. Mum would have come with me. Feeling a bit sorry for myself...

Elenium

Bobles2 over 7 years ago in reply to Elenium

Perfectly entitled to feel sorry for yourself Elenium. But, I think it is a touch of sadness .... all the best for your appointment, your mum will be with you, you keep her with you by all you think and say and do. Most importantly with the love and bond you both shared.

On with the day

Love to all.xxxx

Take a deep breath ... then on with the day.

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