Having a bad day

Just thought this was appropriate for us...

Thank you Elenium, I know your mum was an amazing lady and brave beyond belief during her illness but she must have been so incredibly strong to have raised such amazing children  on her own. So sad for you all to not have had your dad. Count my blessings.

Love to all.xx

Hi everyone, just been catching up on the posts. How tough is this? You lovely ladies who sadly lost your mums and us who lost our life partners, it's just awful. June now ! June!! It seems 30 seconds ago that Jill died and yet so much time has passed so many things have happened it's incredible. Like you maisiemae I wish I could talk to Jill like you wish you could to your mum, I long for her voice, her comfort and calming advice and reason as my life rolls on, the boys need her for her motherly words of encouragement and kindness and they can't have that, cruel. 

I even sent her a text message on Monday by mistake but I do check to see if she read it yet...sad or what? 

Bobles oh how I know what you mean, went to a wedding last weekend and was the only single there, felt so alone in the room it's really hard but now s week later as I reflect I am glad I went, it would have been easy to stay home but I am trying to keep going forwards. A hug? What I wouldn't give to hug Jill again !! Oh how I know what you mean Bobles so hard but keep going I am sure it will in time get "easier" for us all . A viral group hug is needed I feel to help us all , so I send my hug and love to you all, take care and small steps forward together 

Yantibee, I know my mum spoke to Dad every day after he passed away.  She always missed him but she said that we (her children) gave her comfort and she knew that he was always near her.  Someone once told her - completely unsolicited - that there was someone with their arms around her who loved her very much.  That was my dad.  I'm sure that Jill is with you too.  Just as I am sure that Bob is with Lesley, Alan with Sue and mine, Jenny's and Maisiemae's mum's are with us. I think that our loved one continue to watch over us after they have passed on.  How can they not?  That love binds us together.  They are waiting for us and one day we will see them again.  

My mum's cousin was once told that she had a guardian angel but they would only be there until she was 80.  She's always been a bit concerned about that.  We were talking about it after mum had died and I pointed out that she was 80 a few days after mum had passed so obviously she's taken over looking after her.  My mum always looked after her as a child, they were very close.

Sorry, a bit heavy for this time of the morning.  

Sending you a virtual hug Yantibee, and everyone else.

X

Hi I'm new so don't know if I'm replying to the right message. Today is a bad bad day my mum passed on New Year's Eve I'm 33 and my mum was my best friend we would go everywhere with my 2 young children. Now last week my dad has been told liver cancer is back with portal vein involvement and his only option is sorafenib so waiting for appointment at the Christie. Don't know what to expect not even started to grieve for my mum and now this 

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Hi I'm new so don't know if I'm replying to the right message. Today is a bad bad day my mum passed on New Year's Eve I'm 33 and my mum was my best friend we would go everywhere with my 2 young children. Now last week my dad has been told liver cancer is back with portal vein involvement and his only option is sorafenib so waiting for appointment at the Christie. Don't know what to expect not even started to grieve for my mum and now this 

I lost my Mum last May. Then 6 months and 2 days later I lost my partner. I couldn't grieve for them both it was too much. I'm now at the stage of beginning to grieve for them both. It's  really hard, but I know I'll  be  ok one day. My wonderful virtual friends on here have been wonderful. I don't  know how I would have coped without their on going love & support. I hope you can get something positive from our musings.

Big Hugs

shopgood 

totally understand how you feel . I'm like a bear with a sore head and constantly snapping my closest heads off . although I think we are in a position too be allowed too .

dad was awfully depressed a couple of weeks ago but the doctors have put him on a med which picks his mood up and helps him too eat as well . so with that tablet and his sleeping tablets and his fortisip drinks he has daily I feel like I'm winning , although silently loosing .

we had the funeral directors over Saturday which was so surreal  . dad talking about what he wanted and what he didn't want 

 one thing he doesn't want is a fuss and although this was really hard together we all laughed at times and cried .

I hope your day got a little better I'm now sat in pj's although it's 8.28 pm . bed time soon . 

thinking of you all xxxxx

Hello Loverlyjuverly,

I'm so sorry about your mum and dad.  My mum passed away in February.  She was a huge part of my life and we spent a lot of time together so I understand how much you must miss her.  I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel now having had this horrible news about your dad. My heart goes out to you.  I can honestly say that the people on here and especially those on this thread saved me.  They helped me carry on through the extremely tough times.  Please keep posting on here, it will help.  We are all here for you.

Sending you a big hug.

X

luverleyj, and feelingsad of all the dreadful things happening, there is a good one, you have joined a very special group. I remember well bounding onto this forum in desparation and not knowing where to turn. Trust, acceptance, fear, desolation, support, encouragement, understanding, heartbreak, empathy and friendship. This has been offered to me in abundance, i hope i have offered the same back. Its a terrifying time for us and our loved one. Life as we know it is gone, but there is normally a little perfect shell in the mess which shines through, one of these wonderful angels. We cant wave the wand but ive kept breathing at times when i have wished i wasnt... In part because of the handholding here. Advice i would give, apart from pouring it out on here is, say everything, record voices, if a cure isnt possible, there is life with cancer (before this recent campaign) hold yr dad close, listen to what he wants, allow him to know he can talk to you about anything. My darling beautiful mother died on 3 January. I am utterly broken, my family is fractured. But some how we get through it. X

Hi Loverly and Bear.

Like Elenium my Mum died in February. 

We know on here the surreal place you are in.  Trying to just survive the best way you can with unanswered questions, roller coaster emotions. Amongst the meds, the trying to feed, mess and chaos make sure you eat and sleep when possible too. It's hard to do but in order to cope it's vital.

At one point I was drinking the fortisip when too tired to eat (and neither Mum nor Dad would drink it anyway).

Much love.

Jennyx