This is my second diagnosis and feel more alone than the last one. It’s like everyone around me just thinks because I got through it once they don’t need to bother with me. I never had any support the first time either, I had my mum but now I don’t have the need for childcare she’s the same as my sibling with me. I told my brothers and sisters a week ago last Tuesday only to get the usual reply - sorry you’re going through this again let me know if you need anything got a phone you tomorrow from my sister in law and I’m still waiting. I’ve text 2 of them within that time with non cancer or me related messages and been blanked. Not one of them have asked what my treatment plan is or how I’m feeling. They probably just have stuff going on in their own lives
Hi Dangly Bits
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
I am Steve, one of our community champions and my experience with cancer is via my wife who has Leiomyosarcoma and so I am most often seen in our carers, family and friends and soft tissue sarcoma web sites.What type(s) of cancer do you have, you might like to look at any relevant groups here - if unsure just reply here and we will try to help you identify the best groups.
Janice's sister-in-law had previously been through cancer treatment and it seemed she found Janice's diagnosis feel perhaps too close to home so had some difficulty dealing with anything like that - as you point out lots of people have things going on in their life and sometimes finding the space for something like this can be difficult for them.
There were many people who said call when you need anything but then were always busy when we did, fortunately their was one friend who truly went above and beyond.
Do post on here whenever as someone is always listening and if it helps remember you can always ring the helpline too.
<<hugs>>
Steve
I'm really sorry you have a second diagnosis. I was unprepared for others reactions. (I know myself how hard it is to say the right thing but I thought people might say "I don't know what to say" at the least.) My sister was very uncomfortable with the whole topic for instance.
I found these forums really beneficial and I have used the helpline too. They can give you details of local support in your area too.
Thinking of you and sending best wishes.
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