Struggling

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Just had my third round of chemo for stage 2 breast cancer. At the same time, my entire family have had an enormous fallout, My Husband and My Sister had a huge argument and awful things were said. My Husband was extremely angry and aggressive with the way he spoke to her was unforgivable and there will never be a way for anyone to forgive and forget what has happened. He is extremely embarrassed and remorseful for his actions, but the damage has been done. I’m not sure I can ever forgive him, but he is the love of my life, the father of my children and I can’t imagine living my life without him. He is not a bad man. 


My family are now trying to force me to leave my Husband of 20 years. I’ve been screamed and shouted at by my Mum, that if I don’t leave him, she look into getting my children taken away. All at a time when I am supposed to be prioritising my health for the sake of my children, and focusing on my recovery. 

I can’t believe all of this has happened, and I feel so alone and isolated. I’m not sure there is any advice anyone can give, but I feel so alone right now and don’t know who I can talk to about all this. I’ve even looked into talking with the Samaritans as I’m so desperate, all whilst I’m trying to fight the biggest battle of my life. I’ve cried solidly for 4 days now, and it’s seriously taking its toll on my mental health. I know a positive mindset is so important for cancer sufferers recover, and I’m so worried the damage all of this is having on my chances of recovery.

  • Hi Peachyqueen,I’m so sorry you are struggling,it sounds a very stressful situation.Speaking to someone will help so perhaps you should phone Macmillan/the Samaritans as they will be there to listen.Would your husband be able to apologise to your sister ? Is there any way you can get your family together and tell them how this is affecting you ? If they care for you they won’t want you to be suffering mentally.It’s hard enough going through cancer you don’t need this additional worry.I had a huge row with my sister over her conman boyfriend but we were able to get past it.You should be being supported not shouted and screamed at.I hope you will phone someone.Sending a virtual hug and hope for an improvement in the situation.Love Jane xx

  • I'm so sorry to hear this is all happening to you. It sounds like you and the people around you have a lot of stressors going on. Having cancer, dealing with treatments and being caught in the middle of warring personalities, and opinions of loved ones must make you feel out of control and alone.

    I sounds like people on both sides are trying to determine what is best for you and your children. It may be a good idea to speak with a councillor to work out for yourself what it is you need in your life right now. 

    I do not know everything that is going on with you but it would be worth reaching out to Macmillan to see if they can prove you with resources for counseling, transport, or financial support. It sounds like any burden they can take from you, your partner or family would be beneficial.

     You can call their support line at 08088080000. I wish I had reached out much sooner.