Last year both my parents were diagnosed with terminal cancers. We have been so lucky they have lasted this long and my parents have both fought so hard but there is no more treatment for my dad now. His body is giving up. He has been in hospital for the last 10 weeks and they have now told us he will be lucky if he lasts to Christmas.
I just don’t know how to feel. I just want the suffering to end because at times he is in so much pain but I also can’t bare the thought that I’m losing him. I feel like I have to put on a brave face because I have young kids and my mum is also receiving immunotherapy and awaiting scan results so I can’t add more stress to her. But I feel like I have been on an emotional rollercoaster for so long now. My whole world is changing and there is nothing I can do to stop it.
Hi KT91 and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your your parents diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis in the family like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your parents and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and you can get some great support during this challenging time.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
