We had problems before this and they faded into insignificance with the cancer diagnosis. I feel unsupported and I don't know if I am better facing this alone.
Spouse says I am delusional about what I think is happening and I am causing problems because I am not coping.
I had told him that I can't deal with rows (in which they go through things bit by bit and picks it apart, talk over me and walksl off before I have any say) I explained all my feeling from my POV and how difficult it is with stress, pain and having cancer. I feel unsupported and whilst I don't expect my spouse to be a doormat, I need them to be the "more manoeuvrable person" at the moment as I think leeway should be made for me.
I know there is little detail to go on, but I am wondering how other people's partners support them and if I am being unreasonable.
Hi TiredOfItAll and I see it's your first post so welcome to the Online Community but so sorry to hear about the challenges you are having.
Let's see if any members looking in have any first hand experience that can help you out...... my journey is rather different.
Getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type can help a lot. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Cancer Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) but you don’t say what type of cancer you have but if you care to have a look through THIS LIST you will find all our dedicated cancer support groups listed.
These groups are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from members who are navigating the exact same journey.
Have a look through the LIST above and once you find the support group for your cancer type....... click on the link and when the group page opens you will see a [Black - Click to Join - Banner] at the bottom of the page, click in this box and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [ + Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
