Hi. I need to rant. In the past, before he had bladder cancer, my husband had 2 uti. He didn't tell me anything was wrong until, 5 days into it, he said he felt ill. After he had his radical cystectomy, 4 days after he returned from hospital, he developed an infection. Once again, he kept quiet. 3 days later, he happened to mention that his urine was smelling. I shouted at him. I told him that he needed to tell me so we could phone the doctor and get antibiotics. He said he was sorry and he'd tell me immediately if it happened again. Tonight, whilst watching the television, he let slip that his urine was smelling again. He said that it crept up on him and he had only noticed this morning. I lost the plot and shouted and cursed him. He became emotional and said he was sorry. I'm reaching the end of my tether! I don't know why he keeps doing this. I'm worried about him and this is stressing me out. I can't seem to get through to him how important it is to tell me immediately so something can be done. Can anyone give me any advice about this? I'm banging my head against a brick wall.
Hi Lbell
I’m not sure if you are aware, but urine can tend to be smelly if you have a urostomy after bladder removal, as the stoma is formed from part of the intestines.
It doesn’t automatically mean there is a UTI, although it should be ruled out. I know my urine smells much stronger if I haven’t drunk enough and is much darker in colour. Is your husband drinking enough water?
Sarah xx
