My wife was diagnosed with incurable cancer 10 years ago and was expecting to live no longer than 18 months.
It's great she is still alive. Her pain and side effects are bad.
I have to work to pay the bills the problem is I'm no longer happy at home, normally when I'm going to work she will be crying because of the pain. When I come home she will complain about how bad the day is.
Don't get me wrong, I would probably be exactly the same.
It's getting me so down much I don't feel like coming home, I find myself either working late, driving around or just parking up. I've had no social life for the last 10 years, no friends come round and i'd feel guilty if I did go out.
I'm the lowest I've ever been, I can't leave I'd feel everyone would think I'm a terrible person but I can't go on anymore.
As bad as it is for my wife I feel my life has just been wasted.
Hi you both sound like you are in a terrible situation!! Does your wife know how unhappy you are too? Can it be discussed? You both need outlets in your own lives so I would work out a way you could both find happiness again with or without eachother. Discuss it openly but kindly and respectfully as you are both suffering in different ways. Maybe you could join to some groups or a hobby to get you out the house or something to look forward to. Face the situation otherwise itl only get worse. I wish you both a happier future.
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