How do I deal with high anxiety

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I’m new to group. Spouse has lung cancer and ever time treatment is being planned there is a long delay and then he gets an infection. Finding it so hard to support and deal with this roller coaster of events and feelings. He’s in hospital again and I’m exhausted with spending time with him and not knowing the outcome. 

  • Hi   and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis.

    A cancer journey can be such a challenging and stressful time, I have been on my incurable cancer journey for over 24 years now so I am navigating a different facet of the rollercoaster….. I am totally blessed as I don’t get stressed or anxious…… the journey is what it is so my simple approach is taking each day as it comes… celebrating the good days, enduring the not so good day.

    Let’s look for carers to pick up on your post but to widen your support base you may find talking with others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type and support challenges can help a lot.

    As you see the Community is actually divided into dedicated Cancer Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you consider joining and posting in our dedicated Lung Cancer support group. This is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.

    When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your husband you may also benefit from joining our Carers only support group where you will connect with others navigating the same support challenges.

    The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.

    Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing ((hugs))

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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  • Thank you for reply. I will look at the other support sites and if there is a local group for me.

  • It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions ((hugs))

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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  • Hi, 

    I hear you, I just wanted you to know. I am the wife of a partner in early remission from bowel cancer. He finished treatment in November bit his journey was complicated. It is exhausting. I'm still on an emotional journey despite him finishing treatment. We havevslzo had some other major life events to deal wih as well so my anciety levels are off the roof. I personally have decided to get some help from the docs after months of struggling. Sending hugs 

  • Hi thank you for replying. I am seeing someone today at the cancer centre so hoping they can assist. Like you I’ve had to deal with other difficulties so it’s just the continuously being out of control that is so hard. Hoping thinks improve for you .

    hugs being sent to you as well.