Cutting myself off

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I was diagnosed with bladder cancer 4 years ago. I have suffered one recurrence and am continuing with BCG and Cystoscopy checks six monthly. I am a single man and I’m struggling. I’m cutting myself off from friends and family but feel very lonely. My Mum died from Bladder Cancer as it spread after not being diagnosed properly, so my cancer had brought back feelings around her death as I was only 14 when it happened. I feel a burden on people and feel I spoil the mood in any social gathering due to my cancer. So I dont go out to meet people which leaves me feeling very lonely. I’ve been in dark places and thought about dark things. Any suggestions?

winkers60 over 2 years ago

Hi Tufnailsteve,I’m so sorry you are feeling so down and lonely.Do you have a good dr or someone you could talk to ? It sounds like you need some professional help to get you out of this dark patch.Are your friends and family supportive ? Best wishes Jane

Tufnailsteve over 2 years ago in reply to winkers60

My GP was extremely unhelpful (I have changed them). I feel like I burden friends and family by talking about it.

winkers60 over 2 years ago in reply to Tufnailsteve

You need to talk about it.It won’t be a burden to anyone.Nobody would want you to be struggling and feeling alone.

LittleRunner over 2 years ago in reply to Tufnailsteve

Hello Tufnailsteve. Is there a Maggie's centre near to you? You could speak to someone there. Or phone Macmillan support line, click on MACMILLAN CANCER SUPPORT at top of this page, the number is on that page. You can also go to bottom of that page and click on "In your area" to find support groups near you. Don't be worrying all alone.

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