Hi,
My mum has had bowel cancer since October 2018. We found out her first line chemo hadn't worked this time last year, and then in November her second line failed. She has a mutation so there's no targeted therapies and we tried looking for trials but to no avail. She started third line a few weeks ago but was being sick and suddenly not eating. She went into the hospice for symptom management and they believed her to have bad constipation. They got her eating (not a huge amount but still more than she had been) and she came home Monday but she's now really weak (not helped by not walking in the hospice) and so anxious - at night she's really restless and wakes me at least every hour to try and help get her comfortable. We have had one good night though there she slept through, and the hospice nurse thinks it could either be heightened anxiety as she has just come out of a hospice and had some difficult conversations, or that it could be the beginning of the end. I know that the signs are suggesting it could be that. She's not eating a great deal again and her drinking isn't amazing, but she's also worrying a lot about being sick. We've got an appointment with her oncologist (finally) on Wednesday to discuss results of the latest scan and find out if this is the end.
It's just so hard to watch her get weaker by the day. I'm an only child, she's all I have and we don't have any family support in anyone who would come and help. We're both exhausted, I'm trying not to get upset in front of her and am conscious of making memories, but it's just so overwhelming.
Sorry to hear how things are progressing with your mum. This is such a challenging time for all involved. I have no experience that can help but you may want to join and post in our Supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you will connect with others supporting family during this hard time ((hugs))
