Is all this bullsh*t about "nobody has to go through cancer alone unless they want to". Of course they do. The only thing I want is a cuddle, and I wouldn't have got that before Covid, never mind now.
Hi Djuna,It really annoys me too.I didn’t get any support from the specialist nurse or the doctors.I spent the first lockdown alone recovering from major surgery.My partner was shielding and my mum was in a care home.The only person I saw was my sister on the doorstep when she dropped off groceries.I only got through it with the help of the Macmillan online comnunity.Love & best wishes Jane x
I went through my diagnosis and my surgery alone. I went through the pandemic alone, and I'm going through all the subsequent problems the cancer has thrown up alone. Not because there's nobody physically there - I've got friends happy to drive me to appointments, and stay overnight with me after surgery, and do shopping for me - but because not once has anyone, even friends I would normally exchange hugs in greeting with, made any move to put their arms round me when I've cried, and I'm damned if I'm going to beg for something other people seem to get offered without a second thought.
It is sad that no one is offering you a hug when you need one, but I think people are still very confused and concerned about what to do around us " vulnerable" people. Maybe you just have to ask for a hug from those you would normally hug- it is not begging, it is just expressing your needs. You then open up the channels for people to know how to behave around you. Hopefully it is concern which is holding them back.
It's a good suggestion, but wouldn't work for me. I was diagnosed in 2019, and beyond the sort on 1 second hello/goodbye hugs people give, nothing else has ever been on offer. I don't think they'd start now.
