Behaviour affecting spouse?/Denial/Depression?

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hi, I am supporting my sister whose husband has NSCLC stage IV and seems to be in denial. He is feeling ill, is in pain, yet won’t tell his GP or Onc. His denial and aggressive behaviour are causing difficulties for my sister.
Can she approach the husband’s GP and have a word? Can she manage to overcome the husband’s aggression and suggest to him that he tell the GP or onc?
is the husband in denial because he wants to carry on working to support the family? (She is disabled and on benefits..)

I am concerned about the situation (and live too far away to visit or help).

Any comments? Would appreciate all ideas.

1in1500 over 4 years ago

Hi I am very sorry to hear of your sister and her husband's situation. This sounds like a very difficult situation and I expect the husband will be in a degree of shock after this diagnosis. It must be hard to bear for them both. Can I suggest that you put this post in the 'Supporting Someone With Incurable Cancer' group as I imagine the situation you are describing will be sadly familiar to members of that group. Please click on the following link https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/supporting-someone-with-incurable-cancer-forum/ and you will be taken straight to the group. You could also always pass on the Macmillan helpline number (free calls) to your sister which is 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm. Bev

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to 1in1500

Thank you, have followed your advice. Best wishes, S

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