Multiple myeloma - advice about children affected

Hi Illustratedmama,

I’m so sorry to read about your current situation, a diagnosis of cancer in the family is so, so difficult to deal with. I have myeloma and I wasn’t actually too poorly during my chemo, but everyone is different. If your husband goes onto have a stem cell transplant, then that is a different matter and he’s likely to be poorly for a good few weeks. Have you asked what your husband would like to do? There will be times he’ll feel unwell, and if he’s on steroids, his moods are likely to be all over the place, but I do know from personal experience that seeing my kids was a massive boost to my mental health, and so in turn my physical health. I suggest talking to your husband about it, to see what he thinks. As for your child, they are incredibly resilient in my experience. Yes, there were times I was pretty poorly and I’m sure it made them upset, but they tended to take my illness in their stride and 5 years on, it’s had virtually no impact on them at all.

Wishing you all the best

Greg