Change of Personality

Wow ‘old fella’ you can gush !

Gushing is good, felt like you were unloading a lot of bad vibes that needed shedding there.  The choice to keep things private is one that you can work out together, and I think that’s a cool move that many would applaud. Me included.

I think we all wonder what we would do if we were left on our own after many years of having a partner there with us, and for us. I guess the truth is, although we don’t want to hear it sometimes, they’ll manage pretty much ok. Family and friends can be amazing, coming together at times such as that, giving support, and a shoulder to cry on. It’s an unfortunate fact that we all at some point have to go through that horrid grieving process, but we deal with it, and we come out the other side. She will as well Terry, the key (in my humble opinion) is to talk it through first. We’re not good at discussing that are we, but we should. Make plans, and make sure those that count know those plans so that IT doesn’t catch anyone out.

I absolutely get the more closeness, I see that too. Remember those positives from every situation ? Well chap, there’s one !

Edinburgh, lovely part of the world, we were in Arbroath just a couple of weeks ago ourselves seeing some friends, the landscape and greenery is something to behold away from the towns. Do you have any hobbies, photography or anything, maybe that’s something you could try, make some positive memories and a lasting record of travels and likes ?

The comment about not giving away days I love, brilliant turn of phrase, and so true. More positivity.

Only thinking about the ‘C’ a few times a day is also a great move, I guess accepting that it’s always going to be there is a fair bet, it’s just how you deal with it. I likened it to giving up smoking, to start with its constantly in your mind but over time, it starts to move onto the back burner more and more, where it belongs !

You’re not rambling either, happy to chatter on here anytime, it can take me a few days to reply too, but I’m here, feel free anytime.

As for my little angel, she’s just had a shedload of bloods done, all of which are still ok so we go on, toward year six.

keep in touch, stay positive, glass half full, probably with a good malt from your part of the world. Now there’s a thought.

Kindest regards

Dave. X