I know I sound selfish but I need to rant somewhere and feel like im just drowning. My partner has been diagnosed with lung cancer. He's had his operation 5 weeks ago to remove part of the lung and lymph nodes and we're now waiting to see the Oncologist and I know recovery takes time as he needs further treatment.
I just feel overwhelmed by everything, trying to keep down a full time job, caring for my partner, the house, the money worries as he can't work, the struggle to try and navigate the benefits system.. I have a 18 year old son that thinks it's acceptable to lie in bed at any spare time he has, I can't remember the last time he offered yo do anything without being asked. And my partner just sits in front of the Tv all day unless I have push and nag him to keep up his exercises. I feel like hes vegetating not recouperating.
I just feel like every thing has fallen on me and I'm struggling.
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
I recognize that feeling from my ealry days with my wife's cancer. When I walked in to our local Maggie's centre and brain dumped through the tears. They helped me form a plan for a week or two at least and my GP supported this by signing me off for a couple of weeks - luckily my employer paid full pay when off sick.
We do have benefits advisers here, I wonder if they might be helpful to you
Our son is 22 so recognize similar to you - he is getting better with things like clearing the plates after a meal - if he remembers.
Do feel free to offload on here whenever, we all get it and it is far from selfish.
<<hugs>>
Steve
