So sad and afraid.

Hi Lol48 

Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

Sorry to hear about your daughter, for me my cancer experiience is via my wife though can relate to compilcations during treatment as my wife's first treatment had to be stopped halfway through. Still for her the doctors manage to fix that problem and a second line of treatment managed to render her cancer stable.

That being strong bit, I often wish it was as easy to do as to type. 

There is quite a good artice on here about anticipatory grief that I found helpful. 

Are her children still in school? We got a lot of help with our son that was really helpful.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thank you Steve, I shall read the article. The tears come in waves, that's the nature of grief I suppose. Hopefully there will be moments of calm between the grief and panic that I can grasp onto. The children - one is at College the other is still at school, the school has been supportive. Good that your wife has had another line of treatment and that she is stable. Thanks once again. 

Hi Lol48, my heart goes out to you. My daughter was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer three years ago. My world fell apart. Luckily, I had just retired from teaching and so was able to attend all appointments and treatments with her (she's single). I also stayed over with her for a few nights after chemos and she came to stay with us after each of her three surgeries. I felt I was living in a parallel universe for the first year - I would go shopping or run errands but nothing seemed real. Like you, I was very tearful and felt I wasn't coping. We just want to protect our children from anything that will hurt them - but sometimes we just can't. We can only be there to listen, support and love them.

We've been lucky so far ... Laura is currently doing well. It was two long years of treatment and she still has side effects from it, but she's back at work. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers. Sending love and strength. xx