Has anyone had experience of denial?

That must be so hard for you. Im sort of in denial when on my own but chasing every support mechanism I can find. It sounds a big confusing but being practical stops me panicking about the future. I just went out and bought a mobility scooter a shower stool a ramp for the scooter. Would your mum benefit from talking to someone or having a professional talk to her. Family are so very personal. 

Good luck. Get a wheelchair and get him out! X

Hi Geeb

Same situation here. Refusing carers, hospital bed, aids & other support. I’ve managed to get (through constant determination & follow-ups) healthcare professionals to have some of these discussions & that seems to be more convincing than me. The night carer I just put in place myself without negotiating, I said it was happening & it’s carried on from there. There’s a level of me taking action, using others to make the suggestions & I also use examples I’ve read from off here too by saying ‘I know someone similar had to get X, we should do it too don’t you think’.

I also get some of the aids from Argos, getting the wheelchair from there & not a mobility shop, I think took some of the sting out of it & made it seem like just a normal household purchase. I got in it & said how comfy it was etc when we bought it, we got a jazzier walking stick than the silver clinical ones etc. 

I hope some of these ideas help. It’s definitely challenging as understandably, no-one wants to be in the position of needing them. 

Keep your cool as I struggled at time.