My Husband and I have lived and worked together for the past 45 yrs , 44 of which we have been married, we have three lovely children and five grandchildren we adore. He was diagnosed with Myeloma in January , a cancer that is not curable but fortunately controllable. He has had intensive chemotherapy for the first six months, now he is down to just once a month. His haematologist is very pleased with his progress.
I have helped him as much as possible but have always tried to get him to help himself. He will take advantage , I now seem to do everything , he will not even make me a coffee in the morning ( the only thing he ever did). I will add he’s perfectly well enough to do far more than he does. At 78 I wanted him to hand over our business to our daughter , he insists on going in as often as possible. I honestly feel the business would be better without our input, We have always had tiffs but now they are on another level. He moans and complains , every sentence he speaks to me is filled with criticism, abuse and foul language. He has attacked me twice today I walked out , I am staying at a local hotel , I fear more comfortable but very sad about the deterioration in our marriage.
My son eats with us a couple of times a week and suggested that I find something I can do to get away for a few days every week. Staying in this toxic atmosphere is destroying me , my husband had a good sense of humour , he used to be kind and my closest friend , now I see a snarling , angry , aggressive man who when he isn’t being thoroughly nasty just cuts me out completely. He is taking large doses of steroids I don’t know whether to inform his doctor and ask if he might be able to prescribe something to help him.
I do know that many of you are suffering and coping with situations far worse than mine and wish you all the. Dry best for your futures,
