My partner has terminal cancer. We went through all good lymph nodes clear to ...sorry cancer showing up pretty much everywhere..it's so hard watching someone waste an fade away..he's gone from Mr fix it I'll sort. It I've done it to quite nasty spiteful person..we live on remote farm..no neighbours his family 80 miles away..and to add to more stress off grid..I constantly worry about him this place how the hell will I deal with what's coming..was asked by McMillan any problems with alcohol abuse or drugs...I laughed...no I said but it's early days...sorry if I didn't use humour...I'd probably run out of tears.....
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and it sounds like you're going through a very stressful and difficult time. I noticed that your post hadn't had any replies yet so responding to you will 'bump' it back to the top of the discussion list again.
If you don't get any replies here, it might be an idea to also join and post in the carers only group as I'm sure you'll find others there who will completely understand what you're going through.
If this is something that you'd like to do, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
Sending virtual ((hugs))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
My name is Steph and I’m part of the team who look after the Online Community here at Macmillan. May I wish you another warm welcome to the site, I hope you will find it to be a safe place of comfort and support.
I am sorry to hear of your partner's terminal cancer diagnosis and for everything you're going though together.
I have just popped in to offer some support whilst you're waiting for replies from other members.
It was a great suggestion from Anne to speak to other carers. To make that easier for you, I have moved your post from the Cancer Chat forum into the Carers Only forum here. This should help you connect with more people in similar circumstances.
It sounds like you're feeling really isolated at the moment and feeling concerned about your relationship with your partner. We know that cancer can affect emotions and relationships in many different ways. However angry, frustrated or scared someone is feeling, it is not acceptable for anyone to verbally abuse you, make hurtful comments or have unreasonable expectations. Whilst you're doing your best to support and stand by your partner, it is important that you have the right support in place for yourselves too.
It's positive that you've had the chance to speak to your Macmillan nurse. We'd encourage you to keep talking to a nurse, GP or other professional.
Our Support Line teams are here for both of you. They're available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat.
Macmillan has lots of information here to help support you when your loved one has cancer. Although we don't advise on your specific circumstances, your wellbeing as a carer is really important. Our section on domestic abuse and cancer explains where you can find support if you need it.
If you’d like to talk anything through or need further support I’d really encourage you to get in touch with our Support Line. Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat.
Please do let us know if you have any questions or need further support with anything at all. I hope the Community helps to show you that you don’t have to go through this alone.
