Hi,
A month ago my Mum was given a few weeks prognosis.
She is still eating and drinking a bit and able to walk.
She said she notices she feels stuck in habits e.g eating rice pudding, watching the same TV series, only wanting one family member to care for her so is consistent. She said she is scared to try things outside of these.
Has anyone else experienced this with those they care for? It does seem a big change in her personality in the last 2 weeks. Is this part of the dying process?
In one way it makes sense to me, everything is so completely overwhelming, she just wants the same things to help her get through each day. Perhaps it depends if she wants to change this. If she did, how can I support her?
Many thanks
Hi Gingercat
I think there are so many things we might think are part of the dying process but then like most things in life we are all individual. The only thing I think is to ask her what she wants. I guess the only thing that could be tricky is just one person caring for her both for that person but also if others want to help too.
<hugs>>
Steve
My mum was very similar. Her big wide world suddenly became very small. Things she had been really interested in no longer mattered, she wanted to be close to those she loved, eat all the food she never used to eat (never seen her eat so many cakes and treats :-). She dozed and slept and ate when she could. The odd glass of fizz when we found something daft to celebrate. Nothing else really mattered to her. As long as she is comfortable and happy then that is enough x
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