My partner has cancer and is not well at all. He has been ill for 18 months and for all that time I have done absolutely everything.
he has 4 adult children who have done nothing to help. They can go weeks without contacting him. When they contact there is never any offer of help.
I am struggling emotionally - I have become an angry person - I am disgusted, tired mentally and physically and I have reached the point where I won’t be in their company.
I have tried numerous times to discuss the situation but my partner makes excuses for them or ignores me and says he isn’t well enough to deal with this.
he tells everyone that I am doing everything but I nii ok w feel I am just being used as a Carer as he never has my back.
I would appreciate honest thoughts and comments please
thank you in anticipation.
Hi Lilly
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
Your situation is not overly uncommon, I know how I suffered at one point until I accepted that I needed help if I was going to be the carer my wife needed. In my case my first step was walking into the local Maggies who helped my work out a plan in the short term.
I wonder if rather than waiting for an offer it might help to give some specific tasks to his children and then looking to do something just for you. If your partner has not had a needs assessment that might be helpful, see here. At the same time you might like to get a carers assessment for yourself and look at what you need to be the carer you want to be.
<<hugs>>
Steve
