Not sure whether I'm after advice or just need somewhere to let it all out.
My mum was diagnosed with metastatic secondary breast cancer at the end ofay this year. She had been unwell for a while but wouldn't attend the doctors. She took poorly while out with a family member and ended up in A&E where they saw shadows on her lungs and fluid build up.
After a couple of days of investigation we were given the news she had secondary breast cancer that had spread to her lungs which were really struggling, she had to have 1 lung drained of fluid over 10 days.
It has also spread to her bones, lymph nodes,liver and possible thyroid involvement.
We were given a prognosis of less than a year and told no treatment as she's too unwell. She was given letrozole to try. She came home from hospital and has rapidly deteriorated. 4 weeks ago we were told she only had 2 weeks and to gather family. We did this and she has had a really where she is now back awake and engaging.
Her food intake is minimal as is her fluids, toilet habits are few and far between.
I'm an only child so am doing a lot of the care alongside 4 times a day carers and my eldest son.
We are both struggling a little with the ups and downs, while we understand this is how this goes it just feels so unknown.
Thanks for reading
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
It can be amazing how simply writing things down can help bring us some relief, I know how much I benefited when I went and brain dumped in our local Maggies centre.
Struggling with the unknown is very common and of course that feeling of not being in control. When I did a living with less stress course one of the positives was training in conscious breathing that helps me deal when something new crops up - that old adage of stepping back and taking a deep breath seems to really work.
<<hugs>>
Steve
