I am 64 and he is 59. We have an off on relationship for one and a half years. He is a dismissive avoidment and this makes him run away when he cannot cope with his feelings. He does love me and I love him but this yo-yo relationship is tough. He has been diagnosed with kidney cancer. He has a heart problem and cannot have surgery and we are waiting to find out what treatments he can have. He needs two hip replacements. I am not sure how I am going to cope with his issues and cancer and the fact his heart is not good. It sounds selfish but I am scared. He has not sort counselling for his avoidment issues, it’s awful he just cuts contact till he can cope.
