how do I keep going

KPAnne 18 days ago

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I know that today is a low day but I'm struggling to see how I can keep going. My partner had his first treatment this week for melanoma that has metastasised to his lungs. He is exhausted. But so am I. I'm trying to stay positive for our sons and make sure they keep living their lives but when they're not home it's so hard for me. I don't have the energy to do anything and the limbo that is our lives now seems endless. I know all the things I should be doing but today I'm lacking the energy to do them. Where do people find their strength from?

Bookworm321 17 days ago

KPAnne it’s so hard sometimes isn’t it?

I don’t really have any advice- but I think we all have days that feel like this. Sending you a big hug. xxx

Miranda t 17 days ago

Hi KPAnne, go easy on yourself, you’ve got so much to deal with at the moment that feeling low-energy is totally understandable and maybe (for most of us) to be expected. You’ll be doing lots of extra things for your husband, plus worrying which takes up a lot of energy! Give yourself time to adjust to this new stage and try to have people around that you can talk to. Work out each day the vital things that have to be done, stick to the basics, and try not to stress about the rest. Enjoy your sons when they are home and, when they’re not, find small things to do that you enjoy (the highlight of my day might be popping out for a coffee for 30 minutes - I used to climb mountains for fun!) and try to make time to do something for yourself every day. It’s tough and it can feel lonely. Sending hugs.

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