HOW DO YOU KEEP UP

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Ill just do bullet points on this one. I may not respond for a bit. 

  • Mother in law 4 years ovarian on maintenance meds
  • Wife diagnosed 6 weeks ago already gone to lots of places and had if for just over 4 months
  • CA125 was 670 and she told me over a glass of wine on a sunny afternoon
  • NHS flipped the warp speed button
  • In the chair for 1st chemotherapy session before the MDT. Now know CA gone to over 1200 when she sat in chair now down to 480
  • Sworn to secrecy so can't tell our kids or anyone until 1s
  • Bad reaction so need to work ot what and was in hospital 4 days. Elder kids saw a distressing thing and no idea how to deal
  • Today was suppodexto be 2nd full infusion bit only had 45 mins of one to see what the allergy is from
  • Hair gone at breakneck speed
  • Mum just grabbed her from the same place and the same expert team who are treating her
  • Say in my kitchen being told to keep calm and carry on like she's just come bsck from having a filing at the dentist
  • When it comes to the kids,  who are all 25-35 I'm struggling to
  1. Explain the unexplainable 
  2. Appear rational when everything is irrational
  3. Describe the indescribable 
  • hi  

    Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

    Thank you for sharing such a challenging situation, it can be challenging when someone confides it us but then stops us talking to others who I am sure will probably have guessed anyway. We do have a guide here about talking about a cancer diagnosis and I wonder if that might be helpful.

    I hope with your wife they get to find a treatment that is successful without too many issues.

    Something I found quite helpful is Your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize these emotions and accept them as normal and valid seems to help me find them less overwhelming.

    <<hugs>>

    Steve

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  • Thanks mate. Ive read the book back to front since this has started. First thng i read atl the 1st chemo session in tears. More than I've read anything. Not afraid of sharing or hearing from others. A book can only tell me what I will feel l which i know is natural.  I Need to hear from others who felt and how they tried to deal. They were there before me. Does that make sense?