I care for my mother, she has been told she has multiple met. malignancies from a couple of CT scans done privately. It is unknown primary but had cancer 15 years ago, which was successfully treated.
She’s decided to cancel the lymph node biopsy because she knows what the cancer is and the nhs have no reason to do it. Speaking about it causes tension and arguments, she is capable of making her own decisions and looking after herself. She won’t listen to me when I tell her about these processes to get a diagnosis and be in a position to look at treatments, if any. If she was withdrawing from treatment then I would understand but she isn’t, she is expecting treatment for an unknown cancer based off a ct scan.
I am trying to be supportive but I don’t know how I’m meant to deal with this? How do you accept a decision knowing it is wrong and potentially life limiting? It seems like she is intentionally being difficult at times. I encouraged her to speak to cancer nurses or services but she won’t. She has her friends which she says are in agreement with her and I am wrong for speaking up in her best interests.
Forgive me if I sound uncaring or blunt, i assure you I’m just a concerned daughter frustrated by mothers decisions!
