Wellbeing support for carers

Hi Vic2025 welcome to the forum..Well done for thinking about you keeping well. All too often Carers forget about themselves and without the Carers people couldn't be properly cared for..Do you have a Maggies Centre anywhere near you at all as Maggies offer Counselling and I'm sure they would see you. The other way to go would be through your GP and ask to be referred for Counselling, though sometimes there is a wait. Or you could pick up the phone and give the Macmillan Line a call 08088080000. They have people there who can listen and maybe direct you to local sources of support. It does sound like it will be helpful for you and talking with someone else is always good.. I hope you get something fixed up soon. Best Wishes for now Gail

Just need to talk please anyone  

Hi lovely. My sister was just diagnosed with triple negative BC and I think I feel the same. I feel so alone. We lost our mum 6 years ago to a rare, aggressive lung cancer and my sister an I are inoperable, yes we fight briefly etc. But we are the same age by 2 years 

Since she was diagnosed  I've seen another sister that we don't really speak to want to be involved  she's turning up for appointments etc. Im so angry because I am the sister who speaks everyday, goes on holidays, have sound practically every day with her. But my sister who has BC seems to be lapping up this new attention from our other distant sister and almost excluding me. I feel bitter, alone, angry, scared and upset and also very, very selfish because I k own its not about my feelings, but I can't shift this awful sad amd loneliness.

I hope you are okay and find some support. I'd be happy to listen etc if you needed anyone.

So sorry you are going through this. If I get further with finding some practical support I'll come back and share incase helpful to you/others. Stay strong and thank you for responding. X 

Hiya hun right now I could do with that listening ear if thats okay. Same goes to you too. Thank you for replying xx

Thank you im going to ask for help so hard right now xx

Here if you need to chat xx

I haven’t got any concrete suggestions as to who to get in touch with as I live in Spain so there are different organisations here. But I wanted to let you know that counselling is a huge help to me. I have been caring for my husband with now incurable cancer (plus other health issues) for 5 years and, about a year ago, when secondary tumours were diagnosed, I felt I had reached breaking point. He had had two major operations and multiple interventions and I think I was suffering from some sort of mild PTSD. I found a psychologist who I now see every month and it’s helped me enormously. Our situation at home is the same, but I feel I’ve got the tools to deal with it. So I would recommend it!

This is really helpful to hear - and I'm glad you are finding it a good thing for you in your challenging situation. Sending you and your family my thoughts and best wishes