Any advice on managing the care of my Mum who was diagnosed with Lung cancer in Dec 24. She is making caring very difficult because she is regularly snapping and snarling at me personally. I know she is frustrated and scared but I am giving 100% physically. Whilst I do not expect any thanks or praise I am finding the shouting and accusations very difficult to manage.
Hello ,
What a distressing time you're having while looking after Mum . I have a sometimes grumpy hubby with terminal cancer to look after , and his mild dementia can have a bad effect on his mood .... never 2 days alike . Exhausting isn't it ?
I try to take it one day at a time , what else is there ? And not to get upset .... it's not his fault after all . And remembering the importance of forgiveness.
It sounds as though your poor Mum is very scared and angry about her cancer ,which is not surprising , but I suggest you're going to have to sit her down and tell her exactly how you're feeling. Maybe you both need a good hug and a crying session together to clear the air.
Do you think you can have a calm conversation with her? Is there anyone else who can gently explain to her just how you both need to get through this ? I hope you can find a way through, and are able to continue your loving care 
Zillah
