To give up work to become my husbands carer?

I’m not sure if I can offer any advice but as someone who is in a similar position- husband has stage four bowel cancer which has spread- it might be helpful to add how I currently manage this challenge. For me, work has been a huge help in giving me a safe space not to be a carer and it has given me time to balance my struggle at home  with time doing my job.

Everyone is different and in time, this will probably change for me. I have discussed how to make my working pattern fit around the husband’s situation and we come back to it as and when things change. 

This community is a supportive and safe place to share and think about how we can make sense of this crazy situation that has come about. it might help you to make a list of things that your employer might be able to do to make your life easier? 

It is important to remember to keep a little space and time to be you. Whatever you decide to do will be the right decision. Sending positive thoughts. 

Hi thankyou got your reply and sorry to know about your husband, it's so difficult isn't it. My job is quite stressful I'm a team leader working in a care home for people living with Dementia and I work 12 hour shifts. I have reduced my days from 3 to 2 days a week but currently I'm off. He has had several complications with the cancer and can no longer have the chemo due to the complications. I have no idea of how long we have but I want to make as many memories as possible which is why I'm thinking of giving up work to be his carer. X

Hi Tobydog gosh that sounds like a lot of work stress to me.

It’s really tough knowing what to do for the best and it sounds like you need some time with your husband. sending you a hug!